The downside of being single so long, one forgets how to flirt. It comes back with practice and being able to read people's cues.
It to me, is like getting a good book. One may find themselves consumed by another, or so enamored they ignore the warning signs.
This can be problematic, if one falls into these patterns. It is wise to seek therapy, no matter who you are.
We all have trauma and forgot to nature the damaged person that has accumulated years of pain; or unresolved psychological turmoil.
I, myself, proudly have been to therapy and recommends it wholeheartly.
One of my favorite quote, is we miss the opportunities we don't take. I love Viola Davis' statement, she prayed for her husband. Asking for help, or knowing what you want and visualizing it can't hurt.
Make a list, and see if your list is unreasonable. If it is, perhaps some qualities or characteristics on this list need to be adjusted. Just my two cents.
My list is simple and always has been consistent. A partner in every sense of the word. Someone who has a sense of humor, doesn't take themselves to serious or can enjoy my whimsical state. It isn't continuous, but it occurs. Lol.
A person who enjoys my cooking, and doesn't mind surprising me by doing the same. Family oriented is the most important characteristic.
I come from a big family and like someone who is okay visiting the madness, but understands we can create our own chosen family too, if our own is too much which I suspect they will be. Hysterical, but seriously these traits are important due to the nature of my personality and how I navigate through life.
My family has a huge part in the decisions I make and will influence my future choices.
Life has created doubt in my self worth. I am comfortable saying this because will you aren't chosen first at the school dance, it can create habits of self sabotage. This is where therapy comes into play to adjust or break the cycle of the wrong path.
One has to stop repeating these mistakes in order to find happiness.
I've had to admit I was wrong when in one point in time, I was so self sured.
I can reflect and see new perspectives. This allows for new opportunities, fresh beginnings, and soon happiness to follow.
Rather happiness be with a partner. Or, rediscovering a love of travel or writing, which both I am appreciative of.
Seeing the world and writing things that mean a ton to me. This has been my life's path and I am content in my choices. Having no regret is a hard life.
It requires dedication to good decision making and following your heart.
I'll end here, but will add, only you know what is best for you and your life. Be well and kindness never ends. Replenish the world to see a brighter tomorrow.
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